Dr Strange in the observatory
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| Yea, right |
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| Yea, right |
Working in public relations has shown me that message delivery is essential. Regardless of your profession, how you deliver your message shows how effective you are as a communicator.
The last couple of weeks were especially interesting, with my brother moving into a new place and mum going into hysterics every once over a few days. Why hysterics? Because, my little brother, sweet as he is, still thinks he is a little boy and at the moment, can't really see that what he is telling mum sends her into hysterics. Put that togethe with mum's over anxious-ness and paranoia = me driven insane.
In this instance, I learn that I need to help my brother learn how to hone his communication skills. You can't just say anything, just because. You have to be aware of what you are saying, who you are talking with and how you are saying it. In a few weeks, he'll be starting a new job and its crucial that he learns how to improve his communcation skills. The room for error is very small in the workplace. I also learned that we need to keep mum on an even keel - yes, she is concerned about us kids and how we are helping our brother. What we now need to do is to reassure and show her that things are under control.
Another example that I'm learning from is from my own behaviour. In my last relationship, I didn't realize that I was acting like an infatuated kid. That said, I don't really know what I really did or how I did it as not many people are willing to share what they saw of my bahaviour. Sharing such details with friends (or me) is important - I like telling them about how the guy was or behaved and I would have appreciated feedback on my behavior too. After it all ended, I heard some feedback but seriously, I could have handled things better if I had some insight on the outset. Brushing things aside and what I had to say hurt me. I guess I behaved the way I did because I thought no one cared or bothered. Yea, no one likes being told that they are idiots but things will sink in after a while, trust me.
The key to effective communication though, is thinking things through. How you say it can make all the difference in demonstrating how you handle a situation. If my brother had said that things are going well with the move in the first place and that you don't have to wory much, mum, things would've gone much smoother. If friends had asked if I had any reservations about the ex and how I wanted to handle things, I would have been able to talk things out instead of letting things fester inside. But then again, who can predict the outcome of such things?
Here are a few BW tips to ponder through the next time you have the urge to blurt :