Showing posts with label behaviours. Show all posts
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Death to humility?

Hello 2015 and hello all :) *waves*

The posts have been slow in coming thanks to a drain on the mojo (hello work “motivation”) and a dearth of visitors in the sandbox. Talk about being a social butterfly! The usual year-end blooper post will have to come later, this time I’m building up to an observation.

Case in point: With so much self-promotion, self-declaration and whatnot perpetuated social media, are we all losing our sense of grace? Are we killing humility (like poor ol' Smoochy) in the effort to trumpet our successes at every turn?

No matter where you turn, Jimmy is telling you about his great life, Sally is showing off her new body or Sammy is showing you just how wonderful a person he is. Even our bosses are hopping onto the bandwagon "if you don't keep trumpeting your successes, who will know what you've done?".. uh how about you? The person we report to? Or are you too busy claiming credit instead? ;) Celebrating accomplishments is one thing, going overboard and shouting from the rooftops about how great you are, how without you, the office will never be able to function and how wonderful your life is, is sickening. Enough already!

This raises another issue. Because everyone is so bloody busy, would anyone take notice of your accomplishments? Is that why you have to constantly promote and market ourselves just to be seen or even heard? 

While I believe that technology and social media are great, they are oftimes the source of countless problems. If we all took the chance to unplug ourselves from our phones, computers and devices, we could actually get somewhere. Firstly, we would stop envying everyone else. 

We will start appreciating the little things again, being kind, learning to be socially adept with people and to actually see people for who they are. It’s true that we can’t help bragging from time to time but let’s tone it down, ok? If we all took a step back and dialed things down, we will star becoming ourselves again, instead of succumbing to what everyone says, or thinks… or even worse, what some reality star opines. 

Maybe I am just a cynic but I feel that you aren't truly great unless your accomplishments are given third-party validation. And by that, I don’t mean being validated by one of your personas. I mean being genuinely praised and recognized for a job well-done. The days of sincere compliments are few and far between. In the rush to be seen as being ‘great” we often praise false idols while neglecting true heroes. 

I don’t know what the world is coming or how people will continue to behave but I can say one thing. We need to stop trying to be “great” because



Dear God, save me from idiots

I've always wondered, what makes us stay in strange relationships that are bad?

Deep down, we all want to be loved and have the capacity to give ourselves to others but how do we know when to quit something that isn't right? How far or how long will your patience last before it breaks? 


I look at my friends and see that they have amazing wells of patience. One of them actually had the capacity to sit and face something akin to the Spanish Inquisition from a woman he barely knew. I honestly don't know where he gets it but if I were in his shoes, I'd have told her to fuck off after she fired her first round of questions. The only reason he doesn't do so, is because he likes her.


In liking someone, we get mushy-headed. We all feel the need to give people a chance. Be it in a new relationship or at work, its human nature to give the other party the benefit of the doubt. I do it...a lot. Particularly when I'm in a relationship. Friends have told me that sometimes I put up with too much idiocy for my own good. It took me a really long time to face up to the fact that I do.

When I like someone, I like taking the time to get to know them and their idiocyncracies. I'll sit back and see how they react to others, or what they will do and say in certain situations. Asking questions can only get you so far, but watching people's behaviour and reactions? That is hard to hide.  

Me, I don't have much patience to start off with. I'm impatient and mouthy but somehow, in new relationships, I will suddenly develop patience. Funny, right? 

I've come to realize one thing though: the older I get, the less I am willing to put up with bullshit. Call it a stage of maturity but really, if the guy can't talk to me, can't be himself around me or can't even stick around long enough, I'm gone.  And if he suddenly decides to be an Inquisitor, he better be ready to face the same.

But back to the question. How much or how long are you willing to endure their nonsense before you decide it's enough? Are you able to see that person for who they are and still like them? Are they willing to take all your nonsense? Will you want to work through the issues with this person or choose to simply walk away? 

For me, its a matter of seeing how much a person's baggage goes with mine and are they willing to make the change with me? After all the experiences that I've had, I learned is to value me. If something makes me unhappy, I have the power to change it. I deserve better and it's up to me to get my happy show on the road.

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