When did we become so chickenshit?
Time for a little rant...
But, how can we do it today?
The prevalence of dating apps, websites,
social media and online articles makes the greedy greedier, feeds shallowness
and worse of all, breeds irrational fear. So what are we afraid of?
Apparently, we are afraid of ourselves and of
being vulnerable.
We are self-obsessed and can’t seem to stop
taking selfies. We obsess over our weight, or how we want our partner to look like
or how popular we are or whether we can maintain some sort of cover lifestyle
that is the envy of many. Even dating has become a chore. People have become so
afraid of phrases like “dating”. They they need to distance themselves with words like “meeting”, “having coffee” or
“hooking up” to the point that it trivializes the whole experience.
I may be generalizing or drawing too much form my own experiences, but a whole bunch of people seem to thrive on the gratification
in a casual or ‘open’ relationship as opposed to dating seriously. They then contradict themselves or confuse the issue by claiming that they still want to find their special someone, indicating that whomever they are with right now is a convenient option. The fear of
commitment, of even showing up for a simple coffee, has become so irrational
that it is ridiculous.
Call me traditional but when was the last time
you made an authentic connection? Whether it is a friend or a random person
you meet, I’m talking about a connection where you can share personal stories and
actually talk to each other? When was the friendship more important than the
need for another notch on the bedpost? Relationships have to evolve from some
point, isn't it, there is no magic formula for happy-ever-after.
It makes me wonder if social media has stymied
our need as people to make an authentic connection. Or has it instead made us
more direct and selfish in our needs? Are we so fearful of things that we over analyze
everything and end up alone because even taking that little small step out of
our comfort zone is waaaayy too much work?
There are no proper responses to these
questions, I’m afraid. Just experiences we each go through. All I can ask or
hope for is that people change the way they think. Instead of being so self-obsessed,
how about focusing on what you bring to the table? How about going out and
living a life, instead of showing how perfect your life is? Be authentic, be real! The experience, is
worth way more than the Facebook likes, trust me.
And one more thing, vulnerability is not weakness... here's what I learned this week
And one more thing, vulnerability is not weakness... here's what I learned this week
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